Ah well how nice, a long weekend
In an attempt to get ready for my appointment in Burnie tomorrow I went in search of some old school reports I had somewhere
Actually picked the correct drawer which was amazing in itself
What do you think I found?
12 pairs of stockings - 3 are new unopened
14 pairs of knickers that no longer fit
27 bras that no longer fit - I mean really who has 27 bras, let alone that no longer fit?
My answer to that is, after throwing out a few, most of them are waay to good to throw out - and just think if I lose 20 - 30 kg they will fit again.......yeah........
Many adorable old Mothers Day cards the boys and Big A have given me over the years, some old photos, a belt Big A has been looking for for months (!!) etc
I did eventually find the school reports - oh dear - it was so freaking obvious I had ADD what the fuck were they doing????
Oh, that's right I was about 20 years too early.....soz about that.....
Some of the comments were both sad and hilarious all at once
"G is her own worst enemy"
"I have no idea how G manages to maintain this grade with such little effort"
"Attitude - poor"
"Constantly disruptive and often speaks at a volume which is too loud" (Yeah?? turn ya hearing aid down then)
"Could have achieved higher result if work had been completed and handed in"
"Too easily distracted"
Etc etc etc
Basically it is plastered all over every single one - no wonder my self esteem and attitude was so shit!!!
He can take one look at those and there is no doubt.
I have never taken them to an appt before, but I'm not driving all the way down there without some big guns (oh and my school reports - bahahaha!)
I am LOVING the new work arrangement, it's exactly what I needed.
Have booked to go to Melbourne on the 25th of July - FINALLY.
So a few things are coming together, along with a therapist appointment Wednesday and our first exercise physiologist appointment next Monday.
It's just a matter of keeping Small Man positive about his school work, and help him stay on track now so that he can finish the year/high school on a good note....
G
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8 comments:
My cousin's son is 31 and just realised he isn't stupid like it was drummed into him to believe (and repeat by rote each morning in class) but that he's undiagnosed and unmedicated ADD.
He's battled depression and suicide attempts cos a private boys' school made him believe he was stupid.
How utterly vicious and cruel teachers are just to make up for their own short-comings.
Good luck!
Jayne ~ It's sad. Mum said she blamed the school anyway (ha ha!), because there was no such thing as ADD back then, especially if you were mostly inattentive.
Thank you, I am mad at having to go through all of this again just to stay on medication I have been taking for the last ten years, but anyway if it makes them happy...
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You go girl! ♥
My thoughts.....
*it sounds like my school rteport cards.... No ADD here...
*my brother... he was at the more extreme end of the scale (But quietly disruptive, if you know what I mean).... We now realise that he probably had an undiagnosed Aspergers-type of syndrome
*same type of school reports as Son number 1
*ditto for Son no 2
No ADD with us... sometimes it's just the way that people are. For some it's a reaction to the environment. And some have a clinical reason. It's hard to work out why we are how we are: a label seems to make it easier to manage, and gives us somewhere to "fit", if you get my drift.
Anyway, I hope you get it all sorted G. All your efforts may have an improved outcome for you all. It'a a bugger about all the boxes that have to be tcked, though, isn't it?
xoxoxxo
Natalie ~ Will do, thank you :)
Cyndy ~ Yes I guess a lot of people could say theirs were the same/similar.
I guess it runs a whole lot deeper when you definitely do have ADD and you know that you are definitely not 'right' and make attempts to self medicate etc.
Even now with medication I would have had some of those things, not every single comment on every single report for 4 years, especially as you could clearly see where I had tried, and there was no lack of ability - something was stopping me.
The label thing, well for me it's a reason as to why I was so miserable at school and why someone fairly bright found it so hard just to get through each day.
I had a diagnosis of severe adult ADD back in 2000 but the doctor I saw (different to the one that diagnosed Possum) retired a few years ago and the local public hospital have made a witch hunt out of it and are refusing a whole lot of people the medication they have been on for many, many years.
So the diagnosis isn't the problem, it's simply getting access to the medication I have been taking without issue for 10 years that I am really, really shitty about.
I have ben through enough with this over my lifetime to be bothered buggering about now! :)
G
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Good luck.
Our younger lad was thoroughly frustrated with learning (and we are homeschooling) The moment he was medicated, we saw 180 degree turn around, so I know how helpful meds can be for some people.
So sad that schools/teachers can be so intolerant of the differently wired and leave scars.
It's a good thing that there is a more open approach to conditions such as ADD and Autism these days. I agree that it seems ridiculous that medication access is difficult, but after 10 years, maybe it's a good thing that you were able to see a new doc, with a better attitude. We all need to review our meds and ourselves: as you've noticed, your body has changed a wee bit over the last few years, and you never now how existing medications can effect or be affected by these changes.
I think you're great G, to have achieved the things for yourself and your family that you have.
I'm not sure that I would have been able to cope with the grace and attitude that you have shown. xoxox
Nikki ~ I am so pleased for him, and completely understand. If only.....the medication had been around 'in my day' but anyway. Thank you.
Cyndy ~ What a lovely, thoughful comment. Thank you so much, so kind of you x♥x
G
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