Small Man and I have had another serious discussion on the Lap Band. He wants to have it.
I want him to have it.
grandparents want him to have it.
Big A is not sure......
I have made some initial inquiries with a surgeon in Hobart.
Actually made two enquiries, the first guy emailed back a few lines on the operation number for MBP....
The second surgeon wrote back a really lovely email, at 8am this morning (I only emailed him last night at around 11pm).
He let me know about medicare/MPB, and also that he has performed the surgery on two other 13 year olds with similar BMI (body mass index) with great results.
He also asked if Small Man is o.k. with needles, as there may need to be adjustments to the band.
He asked me to call his surgery if I had any other questions, or to make an appointment to discuss further, and that I would need a referral. I'm impressed already!
I just can't let this go on any further, the risk of surgery is minuscule, compared to the risk of him not having it.
We have a paediatrician appointment January 7th - to review the new meds - I am going to tell him that I have made some inquiries, and hope he's not too pissed off with me.
I can't sit back and be Mrs Polite any more - not when my son's life is just on hold, and has been for so long. Bugger the manners!!!!!! This has affected not only Small Man, but my job and our (Big A & I) relationship, our social life (I don't mean we're party animals, but we have had to limit social occasions visiting etc because Small Man isn't up to it) - it's no-ones fault, it's just the way things snowball.
Maybe it won't fix everything, but if his self esteem improves, and his liver function goes back to normal, and his blood sugar decreases, I'm sure that's 90% of the battle won.
Love and hugs to everyone,
it's a tough time of the year in many ways,
thinking of YOU!
G
xx
3 comments:
It IS a hard decision to make. But I agree, if he loses weight and his general wellbeing and health improve it will be worth it all. He will end up happier and that will make his depression easier to handle, and he will look forward to life. School may become easier and something to look forward too.
Ultimately it is up to Him to decide, because it is his body, even at 13. He sounds like he has a good head on his shoulders, and seems keen to give it a go.
Good-Luck!!
I've talked to about 4 people who've had this done... they all say it was a good way to go and have lost alot of weight, but that the danger is further down the track when it's loosened or they get used to it and eat more again.
It's drastic, but if it's his health that is being saved... it seems to be something very worth considering.
Good luck
xXx
Thank you Toni & Jacqui!
I feel in a similar dilemma to 'to medicate, or not to medicate' that I was with Z16 when he was diagnosed with ADHD - and the little voice in my head told me then "YES"...and god it was right.
Big A has agreed. I'd forwarded the emails to his work, and he hadn't replied or commented - and I was too scared to ask him straight out in case he said "NO". Not scared as in scared of him - scared his answer would be negative & I'd get upset (for the 50 millionth time in the last 21 months).
I think now, if it's available, necessary and he wants it - I'll do it.
I think he has his age on his side, his skin is far more elastic than an adults and should shrink better, and once he gets a taste of being a 'normal' size - he won't want to go back.
Now it's time to TELL his paediatrician....
G
xXx
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