All is peaceful and quiet here - at the moment!Small man is sound asleep on the lounge - he went to school yesterday afternoon and is worn out today - plus he has a terrible cough which isn't helping.
The Big A has been handling things a lot better, and seems to have accepted small man's ongoing illness and is more supportive.
I understand his frustration, but as I pointed out it doesn't help either small man or myself. I think he was afraid that if he accepts the situation it makes it REAL - I don't know, men have a different way of coping I think. Also he was raised in a household where any sort of illness was not accepted/handled too well.....I'll stop there I may say too much.....
Needless to say it was becoming very stressful, as he would ask nearly every day why he hadn't been to school, and often made the comment "he looks o.k. to me".
Small man's best time of the day, for whatever reason, is between 5pm and 8pm (when he hasn't been to school) - which is the time of day Dad see's him most - vicious cycle. When he has been to school he is more often than not asleep within an hour of getting home.
I know he wants answers and a solution, but we just have to accept that time is probably the only answer we will get for now, and just take each day as it comes.
Big A sent me a message yesterday just to ask how my day was going, that was lovely - he does that often out of the blue, and at the moment I need the support.
AND we went grocery shopping together just the two of us, which we haven't done in ages
Sometimes after 17 years together you can not think to do little things like that ....I'm glad he did...we were kind of drifting into our own little worlds a bit, so it's nice to be together more.
After ten years of shift work I'd grown pretty independent and used to doing everything on my own/with the boys - now that he's on day work (has been for the last few years) (Ugghh!) we have to work on a new dynamic that works for all of us, especially as the boys are growing up.
Ah well enough waffling for me, better go and make myself useful,
but not by cooking broccoli though!!!!
Go plough the field woman!!!!Plant that broccoli (says she with no idea when you are meant to plant broccoli)
Maybe tomorrow....he he!
G
xx
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With your young man, have you thought about a raw diet. It does sound extreme but it is really supposed to help. I am sure he eats healthily already, but it might be worth a little investigation. xx
Hi Sev - he eats a very limited diet unfortunately, he has an oversensitive palette and gags/vomits with certain textures in his mouth. We have tried everything to help him over come it - even starting again with pureed baby food a few years ago. He wouldn't even eat meat up until a few years ago - he asked me when he was about 3 "why do people eat animals" and would dry retch in the supermarket looking at the meat, horrified. Yesterday things went quite pear shaped with him - he spiked a fever of 38.6 degrees and was getting hotter - so I took him straight in to the doctor. He has a chest/throat/sinus infection. I feel like I may as well go in and ask 'why is the sky up' rather than 'why is he getting sick like this constantly' as the answer would probably be similar. Thank you for thinking of him - Gina xxx
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