He wants me to be his daughter.
I don't need or want him to be my father.
The only person I will ever know and love as a father died suddenly and unexpectedly of a massive heart attack when I was 20 years old.
I was grief stricken for many years.
And that's where the guilt came in the other night I think.....
I'm not looking for a replacement.
Especially someone who is everything I'm not, and such hard work.
I am letting him go, if he or his family contact me (which I don't think they will) I will deal with it then.
Pleased I sorted that out.
Thank you for your thoughts,
G
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6 comments:
I'm glad you've made a decision, G, despite how painful it is. Feel strong in yourself for this, you are doing what's best for you and your family, and you should commend yourself for that, really.
I had to make a similar decision with my own father. It's a very hard thing. I know all the details would be different, and I can't say I know how you feel, but hang in there.
Be proud of yourself.
Hugs and Hugs and Hugs
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My biological mom and I have a very good relationship, but I'm like you, I was never looking for a replacement and she knows that. You just have to make the best decision for you - and I think you've done that!
Don't ever feel guilty about not wanting someone in your life, it makes no difference that he is a parent by some biological accident.
Jac ~ Thank you dear - I'm finding it a little easier because I don't really have any history with him, and beacuse of the things he's said that have pissed me off royally.
Evil Twins Wife ~ My bio Mum and I have an excellent relationship too, we have a lot of respect for the boundaries and neither tries to cross them. Unfortunately NF just plows straight through any boundaries and has no respect for my feelings whatsoever...
Jayne ~ Well said :) And that's all he is - an accidental parent. I'd be happier if he'd concentrate on the other children he has, at least they know him as their father.
G
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May this bring you peace and allow you to move on along your own path. Blessings to you.
Wendy ~ Thank you - I get the feeling it's not quite over yet though :(
G
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