Went out for a nice dinner to the Casino last night with my brother and his little girl, PB and his children.
The kids had a ball!
They were very pumped, I took Small Man and PB's kids to pick Z16 up from work, and to get an ice cream.
They were all quite hyper and in good spirits.
PB and kids came back here and we were entertained by guitar hero and some animated conversation.
Small Man was having a great night, conversation turned to the Big A, and his karate training.
Someone bought up how he was practising one day and Small Man walked straight into one of his kicks.
At the time Big A was terribly upset. It was an accident. Small Man seems to feel that Big A wasn't sorry about it. It was 5 - 6 years ago.
Z16 and Bradley (PB's son) were laughing about it, Small Man became very angry.
They kept laughing, mostly because Small Man was glaring at Big A - giving him 'the death stare' as they called it.
One thing led to another and Small Man burst into tears.
Poor little man, he was so enraged and sad.
Big A tried to talk to him and he wouldn't respond and just got madder.
I left him, as is always best when he's in a rage, he will talk when he calms down.
PB tried to talk to him and he wouldn't say much - except that it wasn't Dad that he was upset about.
PB and kids left, we had a chat outside and PB reminded Big A just what Small Man has been through over the last two years, and the last week especially.
And that as he hasn't reacted much yet it may be a good thing, for him to get it all out. Sometimes when you're this close you can forget what it's like for him on a daily basis - which Big A does.
Big A went to try and talk to him again, gently and carefully - still not much response just a lot of tears.
He finally came to me, which I knew he would, and let me comfort him.
He said "It's just that I'm dealing with so much Mum"
I know.
Oh boy don't I know.
He's better today.
I'm not really - overwhelmed, over stressed, sick of fighting, sick of waiting.
Tomorrow's another day.
Thank heavens for terrific friends that come and ignore my grotty floor,
and friends that point things out that go over better when they say them!
G
xx
2 comments:
you had a friend come over that didn't go you about your grotty floors!!! she must have a filthy house!!! LOL...(in joke hey)
Poor guy, PB is right, it is much better out than in, and sometimes it takes a "silly" thing to bring it all up...not that he thought it was silly....
Have a good sleep....I am going to my nice warm bed after I send some emails to friends...
Nah - I reckon my friend is just normal like me, as apposed to certain mother in laws!
You sleep well too,
And thank you!
G
xx
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